3 Ways to Create a Motivational Collage

One powerful collage theme is motivation! But in order to create a motivational theme you first need to write down a goal. Start with a simple goal that relates to something personal that you are working to toward.

For example, I often have freshmen students in beginning art classes create a goal collage on their major. Where do they want to go? Where do they see their selves after graduation.

Consider the following 3 simple steps.

1. Sort and gather images that will motivate you to reach a goal. For example, if you are remodeling your house only gather those images that relate to that process. This would not be the collage that has images of your last birthday party.

2. Think possible not impossible

It is easy to get discouraged when doing your collage if you think about cost and other limitations. Stay focused on your dream. It can happen. That is why you are creating a collage with a goal in mind.

3. Have fun!

Think out of the box. Mix your images with powerful and inspiring words that will help you achieve your goals,

So write out your goals. Start searching for your images and get started.

If you need help doing goal setting I have a great coach for you.

Send an email to [email protected] She will work with you to create solid goal statements using the SMART method. That stands for specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and tangible.

And remember you can always contact me for any suggestions on your collage making process.

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Don’t Let Someone Else’s Opinion Become Your Reality

I really hate labels. The kind that says someone can’t do or be something because they are too “young, old, dumb, smart, educated, uneducated, ugly, beautiful, rich, poor, liberal, conservative, introverted, outgoing, young, old, fat or thin.” The list is endless. Any of those things may be true about a person but just because they’re true, that doesn’t mean that’s all there is to the person or that they’re limited because of that truth. Other damaging labels are from those that tell a person what they “should” do or be.

A great example of this is motivational speaker and author Les Brown who, along with his twin brother, was born on the floor of an abandoned building in Liberty City, a low-income section of Miami, Florida. Three weeks later, their birth mother gave the baby boys away and at six weeks of age, they were adopted by Mamie Brown, a 38-year-old unmarried, uneducated cafeteria cook and domestic. Brown says that her importance to his life was immeasurable. “Everything I am and everything I have I owe to my mother. Her strength and character are my greatest inspiration, always have been and always will be.”

In high school Brown “used to fantasize being onstage speaking to thousands of people” and wrote “I am the world’s greatest orator” on pieces of paper. But it wasn’t until he met LeRoy Washington, a speech and drama instructor, that he learned that “there comes a time when you have to drop your burdens in order to fight for yourself and your dreams.” It was in Washington’s class that Brown learned how to use power of speech to motivate and stir people’s emotions. He also learned to never believe the limitations someone else placed on him.

As a child, a teacher had mislabeled Brown as a slow learner and educably mentally retarded because of his inattention to his school work and his restless energy. He continued to believe that label, suffering with the resulting low self-esteem, until one day in class when he told Washington he couldn’t perform a task because of it. Washington responded with, “Do Not Ever Say That Again! Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” This truth opened his eyes and his mind to the possibilities and dreams he had for his life and he set about making them come true. “The limitations you have, and the negative things that you internalize are given to you by the world,” Brown says. “The things that empower you – the possibilities – come from within.”

Although Brown didn’t continue his formal education beyond high school, he believes in the unending self-education that he’s pursued with dogged persistence and determination. As a teenager, he kept after a radio station manager until he got a job doing janitorial work. One day he had the opportunity to fill in for an absent disk jockey and did so well he was given a part-time job as a DJ. Eventually, he became a full-time DJ, then station manager. He went from “community activist to community leader; from political commentator to three-term legislator; and from a banquet and nightclub emcee to premier keynote speaker.”

Like Les Brown, great achievers and record-breakers in all walks of life have accomplished what they have because they weren’t limited by labels someone else put on them. They haven’t let someone else’s opinion become their reality, instead believing in their own possibilities within. Just like they haven’t let someone else decide what those dreams and possibilities are.

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Sales Motivation Technique That Gets You Playing From a 10 in Just a Few Seconds

This sales motivation technique will put you in a positive mental state so that you can make the best possible use of the skills and techniques that you have. Whatever you call it: Playing from a 10, the Sales Buzz, Floating your boat, or being in the now, this self motivation technique will put you there.

One of the biggest challenges for sales people is how to get motivated before every sales appointment or cold call. We can all do it some of the time, but what about the first call of the day, or the last call in the evening. How do you get motivated after a really bad meeting with a prospect, or when you’re running late because the car let you down. Then there are the other areas of our lives that impact on our motivation state. Home life, family, relationships, and what about your boss, does he or she always leave you feeling great and ready to make a sale.

Use this sales motivation technique before every appointment and you will be ready to give it everything you’ve got, and be at your best from the first lines of your sales introduction. It works by focusing your mind on the connections between the different sales stages. You will be linking the words you will use in your introduction, with the questions you ask at the sales questioning stage, and the lines that will close the sale. While you are focusing on these connections, and building and re-enforcing mental pathways, you are blocking out negative thoughts, defeating self talk, and stopping those dark pictures. This puts you in the now, focused and motivated on using all your sales skills with the next prospect.

Start by thinking about a common need or desire that your next prospect might have. Define the need as if you were the prospect. Now select a feature that your product or service has that will meet that specific need or desire. The next step is to describe how that feature fulfills the need or desire. This is the benefit that your product feature gives to the buyer. The technique is called the Need-to-Close-Chain and you may be thinking it’s too easy, too simple, or that it doesn’t do anything for your motivation state. Stick with me, I’ve used this with my sales teams and believe me the effects are really worth the effort.

Now let’s speed it up. Pick a need, want, or desire your sales prospect may have. Describe it and move straight into selecting the feature that will meet the prospect’s requirements. Without any hesitation present the benefit, the way the feature actually gives the prospect what they want. Now try again and this time select a need that isn’t so easy. Define it out loud then go into a presentation of the feature and the benefit. Can you do it without hesitation, with a smooth flow from need to feature, then to the benefit?

As you try and complete the links of the chain faster, and focus on matching more difficult needs to features and benefits, you will find you focus more intensely. You start to block out external thoughts as you want to learn more about the connections. This narrowing of focus puts you in a selling state and heightens your motivation. Use the Need-to-Close-Chains for just a few minutes and this sales motivation technique will put you in a positive mental state so that you can make the best possible use of the skills and techniques that you have.

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The Great Debaters – Winning and Motivation

As an aspiring public speaker, I love movies like The Great Debaters. They cause feelings of awe for the hardships that the characters have overcome in order to achieve their goals. In The Great Debaters, a local college debate team overcomes many challenges in order to reach the rank of #1 in the nation. Great Debaters covers many life issues, including aspects of personal development and the motivation of winning.

Henry Lowe (Nate Parker) is shown as a troublemaker, with poor life aspirations. But Melvin Tolson (Denzel Washington) sees into his soul, and realizes that Lowe has great value to contribute to his society. The obstacles facing Henry are a bad environment, and a lack of belief from others. By the end of the movie, he receives what he lacks, and goes on to live a great life. Samantha Booke (Jurnee Smollett) is a very strong character, but lacking in confidence. Upon being selected to the debate team, she is helped by Lowe to regain her confidence. Finally, James Farmer Jr. (Denzel Whitaker) is a 14 year old ‘genius’, but is slightly immature. Upon being selected to debate for Henry Lower, Jr. gains the confidence to be the best that he can be. James Farmer Jr. goes on to start a movement for the equality of blacks.

What gave the debate team the necessary motivation to overcome so many racial difficulties in order to win? This was the job of Tolson. He is strict, and is always concise in his teachings. Winning is most important was Tolson’s strong belief. But winning from a final perspective was more important than winning each and every time. When Tolson leaves the team for the final event, he knows that they are properly motivated to win. The actors do a great job of expressing how motivated the characters are, and how badly they wanted to win.

The Great Debaters is not just excellent for its inspiring messages, but for the production values. Acting, directing, and editing were all excellent. The message gets across to audiences nationwide; winning for others is important, but nothing can compare to winning for yourself.

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What Should an Adult Figure Skater Do to Recover Their Motivation and Passion?

In a previous article, I discussed what to do when you stop making improvement or just have one of those days when nothing seems to be working. So what should an adult figure skater do on a day like this? Remind yourself that bad days happen to everyone, young and old, regardless of level of skill.

Some days, it’s hard to get going for no real good reason other than I am feeling lazy, and sitting in the sun or on the sofa would be preferable. The hardest part is driving into the parking lot and asking yourself “what on earth are you doing here?” or “How are you going to survive the next two hours?” or “you’re cold, you have dishes to wash…” or “The car is so nice and warm; there’s a huge shopping mall half a mile away….”. Would milady like some cheese to go with that whine?

The first five minutes on the ice is the worst; I’m cold and uncoordinated. Somewhere in there, I transition away from stiff, cranky old lady to totally happy and comfortable old lady. The first five minutes seems to last two hours and the next 115 pass in five minutes!

So what should an adult figure skater do when this happens? Remind yourself it’s only five minutes!!

The same thing happens at competitions: “What are you doing here? It’s a Saturday! What if you crash and burn? You’re up against the kids (well, usually they are 16-18 years old); they will make fun of you.”

Remind yourself that as soon as you walk into the arena, the adrenaline will hit and brain and body will remember that they’ve got a job to do. Your family is off doing their Saturday activities and are looking after themselves quite nicely; don’t worry (my older child even sends me encouraging text messages now).

As for the “kids”, once they get past the initial shock of realizing that I’m not some skater’s Mom or coach, they are intrigued and enthusiastic. I’ve had some nice conversations with competitors in their early twenties who feel they are at the end of their competitive career through a combination of injuries, reduced training time, due to school or work, or having ceased to improve their skating skills.

Few of them ever realized that adult figure skating is growing and there will be many chances for them to continue in the sport for as long as they want to and that they can continue setting and achieving personal goals. Often, their coaches don’t even realize how many opportunities are out there in adult figure skating. This is essentially the reason for my website.

So what should an adult figure skater do in this situation? Get the message out! There is no need to give up on your passion just because you are past a certain age!!

Everything happens for a reason, the good days and the discouraging ones. Overall, the training is going well and the next competition is several weeks from now, so no need to panic (yet!). I have time; strictly speaking, I don’t have to “peak” until the Adult World Championships in May. Although at my age, I’d settle for an “upward trend.”

How do you get motivated on the blah days? What kinds of self talk do you use to get past the times of discouragement?

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Self Motivation In Times Of Imposed Change

There are two levels of self-motivation: firstly there is the day to day, "task level motivation" of achieving routine activities, and then there is the "big picture level motivation" that is required to get you through situations of significant changed change that have large and perhaps dramatic impacts on your life.

Our focus here is on the self-motivation that is needed to deal with the "big picture" stuff.

I am terrified that I will lose it all …

Your company is downsizing and you are worried that this might include you …

Your organization is restructuring, and you are facing major unwelcome changes in your working life …

You are experiencing severe financial pressure …

You run your own business and are owed a significant amount of money by a major customer or client – and you have just heard that they have gone bust …

You know what I am talking about – you may be experiencing this right now.

In all these types of stressful situations sustaining self-motivation can be extremely difficult. In my experience, the tendency is to attempt some form of action – to DO something – anything.

This is invariably accompanied with and followed by lots of thinking – the kind of thinking that we find hard to stop – the kind of thinking that keeps us awake at night – the kind of thinking that goes round and round in circles – the kind of thinking that starts to take over and dominate our minds.

Underneath all this thinking is a lot of emotion – invariably negative, anxious, fearful feelings – feelings of stress – feelings of overwhelm.

The compulsive need to "do" something

And then the urge, the need, the compulsion to "do something" arises again.

But actually there is not much if anything we can do – because there is so much uncertainty surrounding the whole situation, there are so many unknowns, and we have no way of figuring out how this thing is going to play itself out.

Then comes the painful realization that we are not in control – that unwelcome change is being imposed upon us.

As this realization sinks in it is usually accompanied by another round of frantic thinking accompanied by more urgent and insistent feelings of anxiety and insecurity.

How do we motivate ourselves when we do not know what to do?

Here are 4 key steps in to how allow our self-motivation to survive imposed change and for it to emerge renewed and transformed.

[1] Choosing our response to imposed change. It all comes down to these 3 simple choices:

– We can resist it, and increase our suffering

– We can adapt to it, and develop new responses

– We can accept it

[2] Dealing with our thoughts

The state and quality of your mind has a very large bearing on the quality of your experience of life, and very specifically on your capacity for managing personal change.

– We need to learn how to change the way we think so that we can maximise our capacity to think in the most constructive and positive way.

– We need to learn how to NOT think – that is to STOP thinking – and to be able to do so at will.

[3] Understanding the stages of the transition we are moving through

It is extremely helpful to realize the clearly defined stages that we will move through emotionally and psychologically as we adjust internally to the external change that is being imposed upon us.

– The letting go of "how things were" and "what was" – this really is all about practicing deep acceptance

– The neutral zone (aka "The Dark Night Of The Soul") – where nothing seems to make much sense and there is so much unknown and we just blindly feel our way forward as key internal psychological realignments take place within us – and we really need to accept the deep confusion and uncertainty that accompanies this

– The new horizon – where we develop fresh perceptions of our self – maybe a new identity, and the is accompanied by a feeling of new and increased energy, a new sense of purpose and the experience of a powerful self motivation that make the change begin to work

[4] Understanding the true nature and purpose of our struggles and suffering

Suffering and struggle are inbuilt into the way the universe runs.

However, through deep acceptance of what is being imposed upon us and by developing a quiet mind and thus allowing clarity to emerge we will – if we allow it – eventually and paradoxically find that the true nature and purpose of our struggles and suffering is constructive and transformative, it unmasks the true nature of "who we really are and why we are here" and it reveals a path to real and permanent personal change and transformation.

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Teacher Motivation – Who Teaches The Teachers?

In these days of budget cuts, classroom overcrowding, and compulsory high-stakes testing, teacher motivation is more and more difficult to sustain. Many teachers decry the lack of control they have over their classroom scheduling due to federally, state, or district-mandated programs. Not only is their classroom time rigidly controlled, it is also often very complex, with students being pulled out or sent in for enrichment or ability-grouped mini classes. Sadly, the lack of effective teacher motivation is a prime factor in experienced teachers looking for work in other fields. If your school wants to keep its teachers happy, here are a few ideas.

Of course, one of the biggest ways to show support or to motivate a teacher would be by paying him a salary commensurate with his worth. With so many budgets constricted at a district level, though, there is often little a principal or parents' group can do in this regard. What they can do is to make things easier on the teachers. If a support staff is truly supportive, they limit classroom interruptions, extracurricular requirements and faculty meetings and streamline procedures so that the teachers can concentrate on teaching.

Maintain a positive school environment for the adults as well as the children. Celebrate together when you can, but treat everyone on the staff as professionals in and out of school hours. Morale is crucial; Since teaching requires a great deal of "giving," a nurturing environment will help to replenish the teachers.

If you are in a position to do so, encourage teachers to get training to improve their skills. This applies to all walks of life of course; People like to feel that their employers invest in them as well as in their business.

Feedback is a vital part of teacher motivation. Everyone wants acknowledgment that they are doing a good job, and suggestions on how they can do even better. Thank your teachers sincerely when they have done something well – appreciation is the greatest gift of all.

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Losing Weight – Positive Vs Negative Motivation

When you are on your own journey and you are looking to win your own trophy — whether in the form of losing 50 pounds or being able to fit into a certain pair jeans, swim a mile, or run a half marathon — you should always use positive motivation.

Positive motivation is using positive thoughts, attitudes, emotions and experiences to propel you forward on your journey. Negative motivation then, as you may have gathered by now, is using negative thoughts, attitudes, feelings or experiences to drive you. With your health and fitness, there should never be any negative motivation, only positive motivation.

We can use negative motivation to get a positive result, but what fun is that? I believe that negative motivation only works in certain situations, usually if it comes from an external rather than internal source. So for example, I use negative motivation to inspire my clients to use proper form: If a client reaches down to pick up a kettle bell to do a squat and they look down at the kettle bell when beginning or ending their reps, then I make them do a punishment exercise.

This use of negative motivation to get a positive result is based on my ability to watch the client and make the client get into proper form; the goal is to get them to remember the proper form. I want the discomfort of the punishment exercise to remind them to use proper form next time. Using negative motivations with yourself may not yield positive results; instead, it may result in less time working out or less time at the gym, or even possibly an injury.

Negative motivations can also sometimes turn into justifications or excuses for why you should not go to the gym or workout. Don’t talk yourself into reasons why you should not be motivated to go to the gym or to get your workout for the day! These types of negative motivations get you negative results.

You miss a day at the gym that you could have used to create a more positive outcome. There will be ordinary, uncontrollable instances that prevent you from going to the gym or making your workout, so there’s no reason to add to these “misses” with excuses.

Negative motivation excuses add to the number of workouts you are going to miss anyway. So use positive motivation to get you in and through as many workouts as possible and let the natural occurrences that keep you away from exercise happen without your mind interfering in the process.

Another reason to think carefully about how we motivate ourselves to get to our workouts and to eat properly is the goal setting process. As you may have experienced, once you set a goal or make a commitment to do something to better your life, it seems karma or the universe (or whatever you want to call it) puts you to the test.

Setting the goal to make positive change in your life seems to come with a flip-side which is a negativity that creeps in to test your fortitude. Because of this type of karma or universal balance we should keep our minds as clear as possible of negative motivation and as full of positive motivations to help balance the scale.

In our minds, if we are adding to the negative side immediately after we set a goal for ourselves, it is going to be easy to fail. Moreover, negative motivation leads to greater negativity. I believe it takes 80% more positive thoughts than negative thoughts to keep the balance at least neutral, because of the way most of us in this society were brought up. As a rule in life, try to accentuate the positive and push away the negative.

If in your life you have not experienced such a balance and imbalance, here’s a test on my theory: Think about something you absolutely love – a favorite food, an object, a place, a video game or television show, anything as long as it’s something that you absolutely enjoy. Now tell yourself you are not going to engage with that thing you love for one week.

In less than an hour you will have a heightened awareness of that thing. So, for example, if you love vanilla ice cream and you tell yourself you are not going to eat ice cream for a whole week, I guarantee you that you’ll almost start smelling and tasting the ice cream right away in your mind. On the other hand, if you can accomplish taking small steps without your brain realizing these things, you are taking away this craving and will be that much closer to your end result.

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The Importance of Internal Motivation For Achieving Success

Most people want to achieve success in the areas of life that are important to them. Yet many never find the success that they seek, and spend their lives feeling unhappy and unfulfilled. Why is this?

One of the main reasons why some people succeed and so many don’t, is that those who well do are internally motivated, whereas the others are motivated primarily by external rewards. While everybody is externally motivated to some extent, if this is your main source of motivation, you’re probably setting yourself up for failure.

Internal Motivation

Internal (or intrinsic) motivation, as the name suggests, comes from within. An internally motivated person is inspired by staying true to their own core values, and doing the things which they love the most. When you’re doing the things that you enjoy, for reasons which resonate with your authentic self, it’s easy to remain motivated, and little willpower is needed to take the actions that are necessary to achieve your goals.

External Motivation

External motivation, on the other hand, comes from an outside the self. It includes things like money, recognition from other people, prizes, trophies and awards etc. While all of these things are nice, the problem with relying on them as your main source of motivation is that for the most part, the sense of fulfilment they provide is temporary. If you’re going down a path that’s not in alignment with your real goals, just because you want the rewards that you think it’ll give you, you may find that these rewards aren’t worth very much once you get them. At this point, your motivation to continue will suffer drastically, if the goal isn’t something that you’re also interested in for its own sake.

The Path To Success

For this reason, it’s important to set goals that are fully aligned with your real, inner motivations. If you should happen to receive external rewards for doing well in your chosen field, then that’s a bonus, but really it’s just the icing on the cake. Remember that life isn’t meant to be a struggle, and success doesn’t have to be difficult to achieve. In fact, the path to success is much easier when it’s a path that you’re motivated to travel for its own sake, as you don’t have to constantly force yourself to keep going by focusing on the end result, and you’ll enjoy the journey as well is the destination. And that’s not to be underestimated, since the majority of our lives are spent in the ‘journey’ phase, and it’d be a shame if you spent most of your time focusing on being somewhere else.

What If Your Motivation Is Blocked?

As we noted, internal motivation springs from within. Sometimes however, people have picked up negative beliefs that lead to self-sabotaging behaviours which stop them from taking the path they really want to take. This can lead to feelings of ‘blockage’ and procrastinating over even the things you want to do. Feeling a strong desire to do something, yet not allowing yourself to go there is an unpleasant experience, to say the least. In this case, using a brainwave entrainment recording can be of value, as such a recording makes it much easier to achieve a profound sense of relaxation, and to access the subconscious mind, where such self-limiting beliefs are stored.

By taking some time each day to listen to your recording, and to focus on how you’d like your life to be, it becomes easier to allow these old blocks to dissolve, and to let your natural sense of internal motivation to flow freely once again.

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Finding Motivation: What To Do When You Don’t Feel Like Doing Anything

“The measure of your success usually comes down to who wins the battle that rages between the two of you. The ‘you’ who wants to stop, give up, or take it easy, and the ‘you’ who chooses to beat back that which would stand in the way of your success – complacency.” Chris Widener

In all of my interactions with people, I’ve never found anyone, regardless of their level of success, who doesn’t sometimes find themselves simply not wanting to do the things that they need and want to do. It is a part of human nature that there will be times that, in spite of all that we need to do, and even desire to, we will find ourselves not wanting to do anything. And what separates those who will become successful from those who will maintain the status-quo, is the ability at those very crucial moments of time when we are making decisions about what we will do, to choose to find the inner motivation that will enable us to conquer our complacency and move on in action.

I find that I confront this issue in my life on a regular basis, so the following success strategies are not merely “pie in the sky techniques”, but proven ways to get yourself to go even when you don’t feel like doing anything.

Honestly evaluate whether or not you need a break. This is the first thing that I usually do what I find that I don’t want to get to a specific action. The fact is that oftentimes we will have been working very hard and the lethargy we are feeling is really our body and emotions telling us that we simply need a break. And this is where it takes real intellectual honesty because when we don’t need a break our mind is still telling us we need a break! But sometimes we do need a break. I’ll give you a good example. I don’t particularly like to exercise, but I do almost every day. Sometimes, I find myself before going to the club thinking about how I just didn’t feel like going. Most of the time I am just being lazy. However, sometimes I realize that my body needs a break. So from time to time I will take a one or two day break from working out. The benefits of this are two-fold: One, my body gets a break to regenerate itself. Two, after a day or two, I begin to miss my workout, and eagerly anticipate a turning to the gym.

Other examples: Perhaps you are a salesman who has been phoning clients for a week straight, day and night. You wake up one morning and just don’t feel like doing it any more. Well, take a break for the morning. Go to a coffee shop and read the paper. Go to the driving range and hit some golf balls. Take a break and then get back to it!

Starts small. I’m at a point in my workout schedule now where a typical workout day for me consists of 30 to 45 minutes of aerobic exercise, and about 30 minutes of weight lifting. So when I find myself not wanting to get up and go to the gym, I will sometimes make a commitment to go and just do a smaller workout. Instead of deciding not to go, I’ll commit to doing 15 to 20 minutes of aerobic exercise and 15 to 30 minutes of weight lifting. This is also good for two reasons. One, I actually get some exercise that day. And two, it keeps me from getting into a cycle of giving up when I don’t feel like moving toward action.

Other examples: Maybe you are a writer who simply doesn’t want to write today. Instead of the long day writing you had planned, decide that you will at least outline a couple of new articles. You will at least get these done, and you may have found that you put yourself into the writing mood after all.

Change your routine. I have found that what keeps me in the best shape and burns the most calories for me, is to do 30 to 45 minutes on the treadmill every day. Now let me be very blunt. I find running on the treadmill to be extremely boring. Usually I can get myself to do it, but sometimes I need to vary my routine. So instead of 30 to 45 minutes on a treadmill, I will break down my aerobic exercise routine into a number of different areas. I will do ten to 15 minutes on treadmills, 10 to 15 minutes on the reclining cycle, 5 to 10 minutes on the rowing machine, 5 to 10 minutes on the stair stepper, and then back on to the treadmill for five to 10 minutes. I still get my exercise, but I’m bored a lot less.

Other examples: Maybe you are in construction and you have been working on the plumbing for a week, and it is getting monotonous. Don’t do the plumbing today! Go frame-in the office.

Reward yourself. One way that I motivate myself to do something when I don’t feel like doing it, is to tell myself that if I get through the work that I need to, I will give myself a little reward. For instance, I may tell myself if I to get up and go to the club I can take five to 10 minutes off my treadmill exercise, which will shorten my workout routine, and I’ll allow myself to sit in the hot tub for a few extra minutes. Hey, it works!

Other examples: Maybe you are a mortgage broker who feels like sleeping in. Tell yourself that after the next three mortgages you close you will take your kids to the fair, or your spouse to the movies. Maybe you’ll give yourself a night on the town with old friends.

Reconnect the action with pleasure rather than pain. Psychologists have long told us that we humans tend to connect every action with either pleasure or pain. Tony Robbins has popularized this even further in the last few years with something he calls Neural Associations. That is, we connect every action with either a pleasure, or pain. When we are finding ourselves lacking motivation, what we are probably finding about ourselves is that we are associating the action that we are thinking about with pain, rather than pleasure. For instance, when I’m considering that not going to the health club on any given day, I am usually associating going and working out with having no time, the pain of exercising and weight lifting, or the boringness of running on a treadmill for an extended period of time. What I can do to re-associate is to remind myself that by going in and doing my exercise I will feel better about myself, I will lose weight, and I will live longer. This brings me pleasure. When we begin to run those kinds of tapes through our minds, we find our internal motivating force unleashed and changing our attitude about the action that we are considering.

Other examples: Maybe you are a counselor who really doesn’t want to spend the day listening to people. Your association may be that it will be boring, or that you will be inside while it is sunny outside. Instead, re-associate yourself to the truth of the matter: Someone will be better off because of your care and concern. Think of your clients and the progression they have been making recently and how you have been a part of that.

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